The Keys to Connecting Well in Relationship

by Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries on March 1, 2013

in Relationships

At their core, relationships are an energetic dance between you and your partner. When you connect well together, your experience the joy of the dance of love.

But just like in a dance, such as tango or waltz, if you move ahead faster than your partner, or go slower than him or her, you will end up struggling with each other or dancing alone.

Even worst, if the two of you are doing an entirely different dance from each other, you obviously won’t be dancing together well. Your experience of the good in your relationship will only happen in those moments when you two are dancing the same dance, in sync.

Men and women who are naturally good in relationships dance with others well, naturally, and tend to have healthy, connected, joyful relationships. They intuitively know what steps to take and how to respond to their partner so that they stay in sync.

Men and women who struggle with relationships don’t see the dance, take what happens personally, and make choices out of step with their partner. They project their own agenda onto the relationship, rather than flow with their partner.

Do you dance well with others?

Below is a list of the key relationship skills necessary for a fulfilling, loving relationship dance. Score yourself on these skills to see how well you dance with others. 1 means never true, 5-7 means sometimes, 10 means always true.

  • I am able to see that there’s a dance between me and my partner:   1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
  • I am able to see myself and my relationship dance:   1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
  • I am able to control my desire to force others to dance the dance I want:   1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
  • I am able to see my partner’s relationship dance:   1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
  • I am able to not take my partner’s relationship dance personally:   1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

What your score mean:
1-4 on any skill: your relationships can be difficult, feeling complicated and confusing.
5-7 on any skill: relationships are hit and miss – sometimes great and sometimes not good.
7-10 on any skill: you have this skill down. Work on all skills until all are a 7-10 for a fulfilling relationship.

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