MEN and WOMEN in RELATIONSHIP and MARRIAGE: Your partner does or says something. You are certain what it means. You are offended, hurt or mad. QUESTIONS: Are you absolutely certain that you know what your partner meant? That you interpreted his or her behavior correctly? That he or she did it to hurt you?
NEWSFLASH: Most of the time you are misinterpreting and misunderstanding what’s going on. Really. Getting this will make your relationship so much better! But it often takes a third person, one who can deeply understand both of you, to help each of you understand the other. You probably won’t get that in therapy. I do that in coaching for couples all the time.