Hear me out and I will tell you why. In the process, you will also learn valuable information about how to raise your self-esteem, and why you should care about doing so.
First, let’s start with a definition.
Self-esteem: the way a person feels about him or her self. High self-esteem describes a person who feels proud of and approving of him or her self. Low self-esteem describes a person who does not feel good about him or her self.
Most people confuse self-esteem with other-esteem. Other-esteem is when a person feels good about him or her-self when others give positive feedback and not so good when receiving negative feedback.
High self-esteem is a critical foundation for a good life. When you feel good about yourself you treat yourself well and naturally create positive things in your life. This does not mean you won’t have struggles and tribulations, but high self-esteem gives you a powerful ability to overcome challenges, because you know you deserve happiness in your life.
High self-esteem gives you better relationships, too. Because when you have high self-esteem you care about yourself, and when you care about yourself, you will make sure that you are always treated well. When you expect to be treated better, you are. And if you are not treated well, with high self-esteem you simply won’t tolerate it.
As you see, high self-esteem is a very good thing to have! So, how do you get it?
Here’s the key about self-esteem that you will not learn anywhere else: Self-esteem comes from doing what you believe you should do.
Now notice, I did not say “doing what others believe you should do,” nor did I say, “pleasing others”. To feel good about yourself to the point where you feel you deserve good things in life, do the things you believe you should do, more of the time.
To say it differently, high self-esteem comes from living up to your own values.
If you believe that you should not eat chocolate cake, then don’t eat it. If you believe you should always be honest and never steal, then don’t. If you believe that you should work on your relationships, then do.
The more you do what you believe you should do and don’t do what you believe you should not do, the more you live up to your values, the better you will feel about yourself. The result of this is high self-esteem.
And now I will ask you this. If you live in a democratic country, and have the ability to vote to elect your government, do you believe you should vote? I bet you believe you should, even if you don’t know it.
The right and the privilege to vote has been talked about so many times, that most likely your subconscious mind is already very clear that you should vote. You’ve probably experienced a twinge of guilt or regret those times you haven’t. When voting is already a value you hold, doing so improves your self-esteem.
This means, that for those living in the United States, in order to give yourself a dose of high self-esteem, be sure to vote on Nov 6th!
I mean this in all seriousness. Voting in the upcoming election is your right, your privilege, and your duty. What’s more, it’s something you already believe you should do on at least an unconscious level. So do yourself and our country a favor and go do it. YOU will feel good about yourself after you do.
And if you want to work on more ways to give yourself high self-esteem, come experience working with me as your coach in a Get Clarity Coaching Session.
Clients who work with me feel great about themselves and reap the rewards of high self-esteem in having great relationships.