When I coach single clients who want to meet their right partner, I don’t automatically send them out into the dating world.
First, we work to understand their relationship pattern and who they tend to attract.
Second, we rewire that pattern, so that who they attract and are attracted to becomes more in line with what they want for themselves.
Lastly they receive dating and relationship education. Clients gain the understanding of how dating and relationships work, so that instead of the typical anxiety and confusion, they experience calm and confidence when it comes to all things relationships.
When the client is ready I encourage them to look for dating opportunities both online and in person.
Interestingly, recent relationship studies confirm the advice I’ve been giving my clients about where to meet good people to date.
In a recently published study by Pew Research Center’s Internet Project, “38% of Americans who are currently single and actively looking for a partner have used online dating at one point or another.” (Find this study here)
Looking at the US census statistics from 2011, 53% of singles are women, while 47% are men (Find census info here).
Since the world is becoming more and more homogeneous, I would assume nearly the same statistics apply to single populations of other countries.
This means that if you are single and feel ready to meet your right partner, dating sites are most definitely a place to look. After all, 38% of the single population is on there.
However, if online and mobile app dating is all you are doing to meet your mate, you are missing out on the other 62% of the dating pool. Where might you meet the rest of the singles?
In this past year, many of my single clients have had great success with Meetup.com. If you are not familiar with Meetup, it’s a website for organizing groups based on hobbies or interests. The groups meet in real-time, and the website serves as a way to promote the groups, build membership, and communicate with members.
I have had clients in the US, Australia and the UK successfully use meetup.com to meet relationship partners.
Aside from Meetup, there’s the old-fashioned advice of following your interests to meet a compatible partner. Go do the things that makes you happy, with other people, and you are likely to meet people like you, who you will most likely get along with. I have had single clients meet dating partners in dance classes, on hikes and in theater groups.
My clients, after doing a bit of dating, both online and off, eventually become ready to seek their right partner. They often end up doing just that, and often sooner than they expect!
If you want to date successfully and meet your right partner, but still feel blocked by old patterns, I recommend setting up a Get Clarity Telephone Coaching Session before putting yourself out there again.
I can help you get started clearing out your past relationship patterns, and also help you start to add in healthy dating and relationship building behavior. This combination has proven successful for my single clients seeking a relationship and can work for you.