I am so sorry if that was a shocking question. But you do know that most relationships start going downhill after the happiness of the early months of being together?
You don’t talk as much, as you are not as close, sex isn’t quite what it used to be. You start to be angry and frustrated with each other, even if you don’t want to admit it.
Can anything help this slow relationship downhill slide? Yes, actually. And it’s the one thing that is fairly easy to do, but most couples have no idea that it needs to be done or how to do it.
I am about to tell you exactly why relationships start sliding downhill after the first few months. Now, you are welcome to not believe me, to not take me seriously or simply ignore the information I am about to give you. But, after 14 years of being a relationship coach and working with hundreds and hundreds of clients, this I know for certain.
Ready? What starts the relationship on a downhill slide towards the death of closeness is how the couple handles issues that come up between them – difficult conversations and conflict.
Handle issues, conversations and conflict right, and you will have more closeness, more intimacy, trust, and a hot, hot sex life. Handle them wrong and you’ve got a relationship that is going to start dying a slow death.
Easy enough, right? Do you know how to handle issues that come between you? Difficult conversations? How about conflict or fighting?
Do you know that handling difficult conversations in any relationship, handling your own emotions that come up when you are in conflict, and handling disagreements are all skills? Where did you learn your conflict resolutions skills? Who were your models?
Well, I hate to tell you, because again you may not believe me, but you learned your conflict resolution skills in your childhood, sometime between the ages of zero to six years old. If your parents were great at handling conflict with each other and with you, always turning it into a positive nurturing experience for everyone involved, you can stop reading now.
But, chances are, your parents did not know how to handle relationship difficulties and conflict well. Very few people do. And if they didn’t know how to handle them well, you probably don’t either.
Actually, I am sure you do OK with conflict. You probably try to avoid it altogether, trying to not deal with it, hoping the issue will just go away. Or maybe you save up the things that bother you, and then blow up occasionally. Or maybe you just feel bad about yourself when your relationship partner comes to you with a problem, so he or she doesn’t bother you, for fear that you might feel bad.
Whatever style you have in dealing with relationship issues, conflict and difficult conversations, it probably works OK for you.
The problem is, OK in this one area of relationships is what causes relationships to slide downhill.
If you are going to do any relationship improvement at all, if you want your relationship to get better, this is the very first area to address, to get really good at. Like I said, handle issues, conversations and conflict right and you will have more closeness, more intimacy, trust, and a hot, hot sex life. Handle them wrong and you have got a relationship that is going to start dying a slow death.
Want to learn how to handle issues, difficult conversations and disagreements – even fights – in a way that makes your relationship better and leads to more closeness? I am really hoping, for the sake of your relationship, that you are going to say yes! And if you said yes, I have something that will give you the information you need to learn just that.
Learn how to handle issues, difficult conversations and disagreements – even fights – in a way that makes your relationship better and leads to more closeness in my How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship or Marriage audio program.
Wait, did I just say all this above to sell you this program? Or is everything above true?
Actually, I created this audio program so that men and women who want to improve their relationship or marriage can have access to information that will help them do it, quickly, efficiently and certainly.
There is no guessing game in whether this information will work to help your relationship. If you get the program, listen to it and apply the information, your relationship will improve.
It may not solve all your relationship problems, but it will make your relationship significantly better and much easier to live in – much more of a joy!
Read more about the audio program details below and get the program if you want to improve your relationship.
Get the How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship or Marriage audio program. In this program Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries goes in-depth on the topic of how to deal with conflict in relationship and marriage. She then goes on to cover many of the reasons for why couples fight and what to do about each one.
- Is it possible to fight fair?
- How to fight so that it makes your relationship better
- Alternatively, how to stop fighting altogether and deal with conflict more effectively and more lovingly, without giving up what you want
- What is the first step in fighting fair in a relationship?
- What does having conflict mean about your relationship?
- What to focus on to better resolve conflict in a relationship
- How and when to take a break during conflict
- What to do when one of you needs or wants something from the other
- How to time important discussions for maximum success
- How to handle a partner who brings up the past
- How long should you wait for a change from your partner before saying something?
- What is compromise vs. what is giving in?
- Why giving in will hurt your relationship
- How to help your partner see things your way
- How to start a conversation with your partner after a fight
- Effective ways of keeping emotions under control
- Why you should not lose control in a relationship
- How long should the cool-off period be when conflict arises?
- What do you do when one partner is the talker and the other is not … and much more!
If you want to improve your relationship, you, your partner
and the relationship will greatly benefit from this audio program!
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