Everyone has at least one core issue when it comes to relationships. The core issue may be invisible to you, but deeply affects how you connect to your partner and potential partners.
Once you can see and work with your core issue your relationship results will permanently shift for the better. You will gain the capacity to get more of what you want in relationships.
You can start working on this right now, by reading this article.
First, let’s understand the nature of a core issue, and then let’s see if I can help you discover yours.
Your core issue is the thing that comes up over and over in relationships that hurts deeply. It is exactly THE thing that you dread other people will either do to you or deny you. It is also the thing you dread others will think about you or the way they will perceive you. It is your secret fear and what you most want to avoid.
Your core issue does not feel like it comes from you. Instead it feels like something that keeps happening to you. When it happens to you, it sends you reeling. It cuts you to your very core and leaves you angry, resentful, or devastated.
It is difficult to try to understand that the thing you feel other people are doing to you is actually your own issue. It is much easier to believe that what’s happening to you is somehow out of your control and the responsibility of others.
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Many times my coaching practice has a theme of the week. This is not something I set up, but rather the majority of clients seem to come into their coaching session on a given week with similar agenda.
This week the theme is “things you should never put up with in a relationship.”
Here’s a list of behaviors and words that my clients have put up with from their partners:
- Physical appearance and body parts criticism
- Clothing choice criticism
- Name calling and being cursed out
- Being yelled at
- Hearing so many things that are wrong, that there’s no way to resolve any of them
- Physically being intimated by a partner getting in their face
- Being stone-walled and not talked to for hours or days
- Partner saying hurtful things because they feel hurt
- Partner continuing to fight even when being asked to take a break
- Being told to stop being oversensitive
- Flat out being lied to
- Being laughed at and dismissed when trying to have a conversation to solve some of these
As I listened to this growing list, from both men and women this week, I had to shake my head and wonder why people put up with being treated this way from their intimate partner.
I asked one of my clients this question and she said [click for more]
Single Man or Single Woman Issue: I want to attract the right partner for me. I am tired of being alone.
Goal: Finally meet the right person!
Solution: To attract the right partner, you have get into life with passion, and participate in a much wider community.
Many single men and women do things to meet other singles, but they do so half-heartedly, without a whole lot of joy or passion. Think about people you have met who are into something, whether it is a business they are excited about, a marathon they are running, a cause they are serving, or the way they are eating. They are turned on, passionate, their excitement is contagious! These people are attractive because of the way they are living their life. Being engaged in this way they are much more likely to meet the right partner for them faster.
Additionally, you need to expand your community and enlarge your circle of friends significantly. Many singles will tend to do things with their close-knit group of friends, without getting out into the wider community. If you are going to meet the right person for you, you need to be places you have never been, meeting people you have not yet met.
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